Date #23: From Date to Detective

Author’s Note: In no way should Date #23 have his own post but the next two dates will have their own and I wanted to continue keeping the dates in order. To give this entry some type of substance, I’ll be including questions about the blog I answered on my IG story for those who have missed it.

April 12th, 2022

I met Date #23 at City Perch Kitchen + Bar, a restaurant in North Bethesda, MD in the Pike & Rose shopping center. This was a cool lil date; there were a lot of laughs between us and he was cute. But he was Ethiopian and from my personal experiences I already kind of guessed where it was heading… and I was right. But before we jump to the end of the date let’s continue in order.

So we sat at the rooftop of the restaurant overlooking the shopping center and the vibes were there I won’t lie. We were on the same wavelength with the same jokes and everything. It was a good enough time to where after dinner we went across the street to grab drinks at Nada (now permanently closed). We agreed to both try drinks we wouldn’t typically order which, if you're willing to try something new with me, always wins points in my book. Those points were quickly taken away though.

After the drinks we had a mini photoshoot in front of the store windows, then we headed back to his car for him to drive me home. We didn’t leave right away though. We sat and had decent conversation from what I remember. He did ask if he could kiss me then after a small makeout sesh he asked if I wanted to go back to his place and… I did not. Naturally, the whole mood changed. Yes the vibes were there, but not enough for me to want to go home with him at the end of the night. He took me back to the dorms and we didn’t speak after that. Thankfully he didn’t text me because I, too, was turned off after he got in a mood that I didn’t want to go to his place.

Maybe a year or so later I randomly got a DM from him on IG (mind you we never even followed each other on IG), basically him saying that his friend came across my DC Dates highlights and sent him the one of him in it. He asked me to take it down and I agreed... then blocked him. I had three different highlights of all my DC Dates and he was in the middle so whoever came across it must’ve been locked in.

Another year had passed and I got a random text from this number… yall already know who it was. His number was never saved but it was obvious it was him because he sent a screenshot of my highlight still bugging me about the video I didn’t delete. We were going back and forth for hours. I was trying to find the messages for yall but it’s lost somewhere. I told him I could repost but put an emoji over his face but I wasn’t getting rid of the whole story. I also reminded him that I asked if I could post the video as I do with all my dates. Most agree, but some also decline so I make sure not to show their face which was evident when my highlights were posted. If you were going to have a problem with it you shouldn’t have agreed from the beginning.

I also asked who the friend was which he refused to tell me at first but then switched up and said the friend and I weren’t following each other but that he just randomly came across my page. Very far-fetched but whatever, he kept fighting me on taking the whole date down. Anywho, the conversation ended with him sayin somethin like “you’re welcome for giving you content for your IG iguess” something sarcastic (this was before my blog became a thing), and I just said thank you. And a genuine thank you too because none of this would be made possible without all participants(:

The DC Dates started as a funny little thing for just me and my followers, but now that I am going into detail about the dates and it’s becoming more public outside of my immediate audience, I decided to take all the highlights down. And I also unblocked that man so he can rest easy.

We are now halfway through my date series! See below some questions I’ve gotten since starting the blog:

1. Do any of the guys know about their blog post?

A lot of guys do know that I’m talking about them and curating posts centered around our date(s), but has any of them actually read their post? Only one that I know of. Date #24 - coming next week 🙏🏾

1. Have you ever had more than one date in a day?

   
   

Imma be honest with yall… I have wanted to make 3 dates in one day happen 😅 but that has not been successful. But yes Date #3 was a breakfast date then Date #4 we went out for drinks later in the evening

1. What’s the most guys you were dating at the same time?

I would say 3 guys at a time. Two would be consistent and the third would be off and on

1. Did any of the guys know about each other?

Yall know I post everything, I don’t hide anything nor do I believe in dating one at a time so... most of the time yes they know others are in the mix but they usually don’t know who the specific “other” is

1. Which guy (date) was your favorite?

Well besides the obvs 😌 before my final DC Date, my favorite was Date #28 which will be posted in the next few weeks 🤞🏾

1. Do you plan to make a Vlog about the date stories?

No, the blog is already a lot to keep up with. Although I feel like I would get more views if I did do a Vlog, the content creation part is so overwhelming I can only handle one medium at a time 😅

1. Have you gotten any negative reviews on it?

I got one comment but all the positives outweighed the one negative so...

1. Are you going to post more in the other sections?

So I started this as basically a summer project and just wanting something to do with my time so all my energy was supposed to be put into this blog. I started school a year earlier than expected so now all my energy is going into that. But I already started the DC Dates so I want to finish that for yall. Hopefully in the future I can get to the other sections but see-see

1.  What does your man think of your blog?

He’s very supportive of it! He was one of my first subscribers and reshares all my posts to his story. He said with each story he finds out a little bit more about me 🥰 (so let me be careful with what I share 👀)

1.  Now that you’re in a relationship what happens with the blog?

   
   

Me and my man still gonna be going on dates so I’ll talk about those and how the long distance is going if yall care to read about it 🤪